Why I'm Giving Up

 
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For years I’ve held a romantic notion in my mind. It’s me as a gardener. 

In my vision I wear a large, floppy sun hat, faded denim apron and garden clogs. In one arm I hold a wicker basket piled high with the bounty of fresh fruits and vegetables I’ve just harvested from my garden by hand. 

In the other freshly cut flowers to be artistically arranged in a mason jar that will grace the table where I’ll serve a delicious healthy meal created with the afore-mentioned fruits and vegetables. 

Though I’ve held onto this enchanting dream for over 20 years, in reality the few times I’ve attempted to keep so much as a lone tomato plant alive, I have failed miserably. 

When I recently professed envy for a neighbor’s beautiful swiss chard, she gifted me with a grow-bag, starters and seeds so that I might make a go of gardening again myself.

Two weeks later the growbag sat empty (apparently you need to add soil to it) and the starters sat dried up and dead on my window sill. 

So I've made an empowered decision ~ I’m giving up!

Although I’m still enamored with the “idea” of gardening, when it comes to actually putting that idea into practice and taking the necessary steps,  it just ain’t happening. 

And, I’m okay with that. 

In fact, I’m better than “okay” with that. I’m thrilled. Because I’ve given myself a gift better than the deliciousness of a summer tomato ~ I have DECIDED! 

By making the decision that I do not actually want to do what it takes to grow a garden, I immediately freed up all kinds of headspace and emotional energy I can now use for other creatively fulfilling endeavors.

More time and energy for writing, playing piano and singing, visual journaling, cooking, and shopping for lovely, locally grown produce at my neighborhood farmer’s market! (Now THAT I’ll do!)

Decision making is especially useful for multi-passionate creatives who usually run around with anywhere from a dozen to a 5,697 creative ideas swirling around in their brains on any given day!

I have tools and techniques that help my clients make empowered decisions that allow them to move forward on their creative journeys with greater confidence, joy and ease. For example...

Recently I worked with a client to help her come to the decision that she actually didn’t really want or need the website she’s been telling herself she did for years. Her Facebook group page will work nicely. Now she gets to use all of that time and energy she’d spent fretting about how to get her website up and running (quite an undertaking!) to focus on other creative endeavors.

• Another client decided that she really doesn’t want or need to write the book she’s been telling herself she needs to write for months after all. Making that decision has freed her up to explore new ways to share and propagate her messages of peace, love and non-violence such as creating a community for like-minded thinkers to collaborate.

• My client who’s bringing music back into his life decided that while he loves playing instruments, writing tunes and recording, he’s gonna leave the lyric writing to someone else. It’s just not his thing. And now that he’s made that decision, he can let go of the guilt he was feeling fueled by the thought “I’m not doing it right” and focus on the parts he loves.

How about you? 

Are you ready to start making empowered decisions that will help you move forward and take consistent inspired action on the creative endeavors you crave? 

If so, I invite you to click here to book a Creative Oasis Clarity Call with me. 

It will be the best decision you make all week!

xoxo ~ Jill

 
Jill Allison Bryan